How do we resolve conflict in other relationships?

Are you in control of you?

Am I the speaker or the listener?

How might you help your spouse become aware of your challenging preferences or triggers?

Repairing and soothing can help us stay calm during conflict and keep it healthy.

Are both of us willing to adjust?

How do we unravel a conversational mess to understand how to avoid the same missteps next time?

How do we share gently and receive influence from our spouse?

What are couples in healthy relationships doing to make it last?

Will we choose to believe our spouse is well-intentioned?

How do we begin presenting our topic?

Do you address problems quickly or wait until you explode?

Are we friendly in marriage?

What if everybody’s talking, but nobody’s listening?

Who is speaker, and who is listener?

Do you take your turn as a good listener?

Are you sharing your heart to help your spouse receive your message?

What does empathy look like during conflict?

Have you created a safe conversational atmosphere?

Do you start sharing to open or close your spouse to hear you?

Do you set up your conversations?

In situation X, I feel Y, and I need Z.

What expectations have we created, and how do we create new ones?

How do we talk about the deeper issues of the heart to take our relationship to a deeper level?

How do we get rid of the buildup from unresolved issues?

How do we clean up our marital trash?

How does removing roadblocks open your communication pathway?

Are we willing to please our spouse?