Repair & Restore Info Page
We’re glad you stopped by. We expect you’re in a lot of relational pain, and we understand it is challenging. We commend you for your tenacity to save your marriage. Please, remember, you didn’t get here overnight, so allow time for your changes to impact your spouse and facilitate his/her corresponding changes. Whether you’re seeing a therapist, or not, We pray you find helpful ideas on this page.
STEP 1: One-Sided Work
When your spouse isn’t working with you, you have to do the work one-sided. Think of your spouse as in relational ICU. The concept is to work on bringing healing for your spouse. Over time, this may create atmosphere for his/her to do the same, though there are no guarantees. For some, this is about doing the right thing, even when our spouse doesn’t. For others, it’s about giving the relationship as good a chance as we can to recover.
Shawn has a message to husbands, and Rhonda has a message to wives,
to address many items we’re seeing in troubled marriages.
*This information is less impactful where there is verbal or emotional abuse.
STEP 2: Soften Hard Hearts
You’ve probably noticed, hearts have hardened to one degree or another - for both of you. Watch this video about softening a heart.
STEP 3: Work through Negative Perspectives
Below are selected videos about healing your relationship with your spouse.
STEP 4: Keep Up the Good Work!
Continue doing the right thing on your side of the relationship, regardless of your spouse’s choices. Be consistent, and give it your best shot: Covenant is worth fighting for! Check out our other videos on repairing and restoring broken relationship.
STEP 5
After you’ve watched the information about repairing and restoring, see our videos on resolving conflict and more!
STEP 6
How did it go? If you were diligent to work through the suggestions and keep a steady pace, we wonder if you’ve seen an improvement. We pray you will continue working on your marriage. Will you tell us about it? We’d love to hear your experience! Below are some additional resources:
