Marital trash is the gunk that builds in the marriage from unresolved issues.
We've all heard the wife is weaker, but is that what God's word means?
How do we do marriage around trauma, grief, PTSD, depression, betrayal, or other serious challenge?
As a couple, can we come up with joint vision and goals for the upcoming year together?
Can you share your feelings without a verbal and emotional explosion?
How do we espect each other's opinions that are different from ours?
How can we use surface communication as a safe place for setting up deeper communication?
Do you long to talk on a deeper level? Here's a good starting point.
What can we do to improve the holiday scene and make precious memories for our family?
How do we deepen communication to share our deepest selves to each other?
Have you felt disillusioned in your marriage as you notice his and her imperfections?
How do you maintain a healthy marriage while parenting? Here are some ideas.
Parenting together well requires husband and wife coming together, blending very different ideas about parenting. Here are some thoughts to get you started.
Here’s an overview of resolving conflict in various relationships.
Returning to our first love and doing the first works (Revelation 2) maintains our walk with the Lord and also applies to our marriage.
Here's a brief overview of some male-female differences. How might these affect the way we find "we" in marriage?
What happens to the relationship when we over- or under-address problems?
If we address issues too frequently, we create the feeling we are unhappy and dissatisfied, but if we address them infrequently, we come across as not caring. How can you land on somewhere in the middle?
Temper your sharing frequency toward your spouse's to avoid overwhelming an under-sharer and to meet the conversational needs of the over-sharer.
How might we unintentionally come across as aggressive or disinterested in marriage?
Our marriages speak to others and are a testimony of what we believe - especially about how we see God. How might we pattern our marriages after God's heart to share a better message?
We can learn how to grow deeper in our marriage relationship by understanding how we grow deeper in our relationship with the Lord.
When married, do we serve individually, together, a mix of both? How might this look and how do we serve together?
Our relationships are living and functioning. As such, they produce waste. In marriage, resolving conflict removes waste and prevents its buildup between husband and wife.
Can we go into each other's holy place? What does it look like there, and what are the rules of your holy place?
In marriage, we are to grow to a place of being spiritually and emotionally naked and unashamed.
Let's talk about Proverbs 16:24 and what it means for our words to be sweet for another person to receive them.
Let's look at Proverbs 22:17-18 to understand how to listen to someone we want to blend with.
His and her brains respond differently to anger. Let's talk about info on this topic we found in Dr. Carolyn Leaf's book, Who Switched Off My Brain?
How does processing internally or externally affect relationships? Let's talk about info from Dr. Carolyn Leaf's book, Who Switched Off My Brain?
Males & females interact with their emotions very differently. Let's talk about it. We're referencing Dr. Carolyn Leaf's book, Who Switched Off My Brain?
Male and female read and interpret non-verbal cues differently, but how does this affect relationship? Let's talk about some info from Dr. Carolyn Leaf's book, Who Switched Off My Brain?
What's different about his and her communication? Lots! Join us as we talk about those differences and their impact on relationships. Some of this info came from Dr. Carolyn Leaf's book, Who Switched Off My Brain?
Male and female are different in the way our brains are wired. Let's look at what's different in the way we perceive, with info discussed from Dr. Carolyn Leaf's book, Who Switched Off My Brain.
Merging families is a challenge, and there are many pieces to this picture. Here are some conversation starters to help.
Our day-to-day routines can include or exclude our spouse and family. Working as a team around routines contributes toward marriage & family closeness.
Because we are male and female, we process information differently, and this affects the marriage.
Let's talk about how male and female viewpoints are different and how we can complement each other with these differences.
Our brains are wired differently, and it affects the way we communicate. Let's look at how men and women are different and how knowing this can improve communication in marriage.
As a couple, we need to be on the same page about our budget, but it's helpful to position ourselves to even go there. Here are some ideas about getting ready to talk about the budget.
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As individuals, we place different meanings and values on things, like holidays, the way we believe about different things, and... everything! It's important for us to come up with "We" meanings.
Dr. John Gottman recommends strengthening a marriage by adding these 6 hours per week.
What happens when disagreements don't turn out well? Couples in healthy marriages analyze them. Let's look at how to do that.
How do we make decisions together when we have such different perspectives?
When our spouse shares a problem, we need to be willing to adjust. How might we do that well?
How do we pray in faith for our family, and how do we get started as a couple?
Maintaining connectivity while your spouse is sharing is doing your part as listener.
Prevent your presentation from blocking your heart message by being aware of how you may be coming across.
Did you know the way you start communication can determine how it goes?
We both have something to say, but we can only work through one topic at a time and must wait until it's our turn to share.
If you’re the listener, you’d want to be listening…. If you’re the speaker, you’d want to share your message in a way the listener can hear.
If you're struggling with getting your spouse to hear you when you present a problem to resolve, maybe you could improve your set up.
What can you do to improve the chance your spouse may really listen when you share?
How might you help your spouse become aware of your challenging preferences or triggers?
Repairing and soothing can help us stay calm during conflict and keep it healthy.
What can you do when your husband will hardly speak to you?
Are you blocking your spouse from hearing your perspective by coming across as argumentative?
Are we coming across as aggressive or accusing without realizing it?
Do you tend to think your responses are the result of what your spouse did?
Do you have a tendency to blame your spouse for the problems in your marriage?
When your spouse shares with you something important to him/her, how important do you make it to yourself?
What is our own contribution to the negativity in the relationship?
Do you immediately get on the warpath when your spouse presents and issue?
Is your own perspective so loud in your mind you can't hear anything else?
